Pieces of Me

Bits and pieces of my life and of my heart.

When your best isn’t good enough.

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My son is 13. I tell him all the time that as long as he does his best he will be happy. Things will work out. He will be OK. I tell him this because I really believe it to be true. It is what I try to accomplish in all that I endeavour to achieve and I throw myself into whatever it is with all of my heart, all of the time. When something does not go my way or turn out the way I had hoped, usually I can retrace my steps and see where I possibly missed a bit or didn’t give something my full attention, and this I can always learn from, carrying it forward, improving all of the time. I teach my son this when he is disappointed with an outcome. I teach him to look at the situation, be honest about his effort and see where, if any, the areas that may need to be improved upon. Usually in both my life and in his this is enough. Usually upon reflection we can see what needs to be made better. Usually this is enough in dealing with the let down, and usually we can move on without any regrets.

Usually.

My son is 13. He has not had enough life experience to know what I know,to know how it feels, really feels, to come up short and have no idea why. I throw myself heart and soul into something, give it my very best shot and still come up short. Still lose out, still hurt, still end up on the wrong side of the street. Try as I may I cannot see where I tripped up, what I missed, didn’t see, didn’t hear. How do I prepare him for that? Will he think me untrue? After all, it is me who keeps telling him, and myself, that as long as you do your best all will be well. What happens if I stop believing this?

What happens when your best isn’t good enough?
How on earth do you reconcile yourself with that?

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Author: Pieces of Me.

I don't know what I would do if I didn't write. It keeps me sane. Centered. Happy. I write about my life, my heart and what I think about most things. I used to have cancer and now I don't. I am so thankful to still be here putting my thoughts into words. Feel free to let me know how you feel about what I write. I love more than anything other people's opinons and thoughts.

2 thoughts on “When your best isn’t good enough.

  1. I think if you look at it slightly differently you can see that as long as you do your best, while it doesn’t guarantee all will be well, you can take pride in the fact you put in the effort. It can be painful and it does hurt when things don’t quite work out. It doesn’t mean you haven’t tried your best, it just means that sometimes, no matter what, things don’t work out the way we hoped. It’s not anybody’s “fault”. There is no “blame” to be attached. It just is a painful fact of life. If you feel you have put forth your best effort, at least you know you tried, and at the end, that’s all any of us can do in this life. We cannot control everything. I suspect that even at the young age of 13, your son will have learned this to some extent already. Just be gentle with yourself.

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